Oh hiiii Santa Cruz! #ucsc #norcal #santacruz #treeseverywhere #bridge
Just realized how much a year can make a difference. It’s a Saturday night and I’m chilling at home- drinking boba and studying; and I am PERFECTLY CONTENT if not more than that. This time last year I would have been out doing stupid stuff that could potentially ruin everything I’ve worked for.
I’ve realized you are the company you keep (as much as people don’t want to admit). I don’t even talk to the people who I would have considered my best friends last year - and I’m fine with that, we went our separate ways. But what I am extremely proud of is the people who I managed to keep in my life and grow closer to. These people are the ones who have made me a better person. They have pushed me to excel where “friends” of the past would have told to me to give up. They have been the support I needed to get through hard times. They have motivated me to be a better person, and showed me how to be happy with myself. I’ve laughed and cried with them. They’ve put up with my moods - whether I had a reason to be in a bad mood that day or not. I may not see all of them as often as I’d like, but it’s like we were never apart when I see them again.
And I am just so grateful for these people. I am so truly blessed to have such great people in my life. These people aren’t my friends - they are family to me. And I love them all so much.
I know most of them will probably never see this. But for the ones who do - thank you for being one of those people in my life. It really does mean a lot to me :)
25 Things To Do Before You Turn 25
1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.
2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward.
3. Minimize your passivity.
4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day.
5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.
6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.
7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.
8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.
9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.
10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.
11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun.
12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.
13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.
14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.
15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.
16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.
17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.
18. Stop hating yourself.
19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.
20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.
21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.
22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.
23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home when you start to miss it.
24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.
25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.
|—||January Nelson, 06/25/12, http://thoughtcatalog.com/2012/25-things-to-do-before-you-turn-25/ (via lydiamichelle)|
Came home to a nice little gift from my dad. I love my family #happyvaletinesday #pretty #surprise #dozenredroses#longstemroses #redroses
Saw the Endeavour today! #endeavour #spaceshuttle #californiasciencecenter #outofthisworld #nerdporn (at Space Shuttle Endeavour @ California Science Center)
Learning how to say bubble gum O.o